Do you like your significant other's friends? Or, do you think they are complete morons? Take a look at the email I got yesterday...
Weslea,
My husband and I just got into the biggest fight ever! I'm upset because he thinks that my friends are morons. We've all known each other since grade school. We try to get together about twice a month and my husband has made it clear that he won't be taking part in the upcoming get together. He told me that they were beneath me, that they all acted like idiots. He's just mad because last time we all got together two of the husbands went on a "walk" and came back high. He didn't like the fact that they could do something like that and then drive their wives and kids home. I don't like to fight with my husband, but I don't want to give up my friends. What should I do?
What do you think? Have you ever had to give up friends? Have you ever fought with your partner because they don't like your friends?
04/18/2008 10:25AM
Moronic Friends
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04/18/2008 10:48AM
Compromise
If he doesn't want to go, let him stay home. But don't give up your friends! Just compromise. I have to say, I don't blame him for not wanting to spend time with pot-heads.
04/18/2008 10:53AM
Two-faced boyfriend.
My ex was one guy around me. But when he was around his friends he turned into an evil version of himself. I just decided that I didn't want to be around him when he was with them. But, I would never ask him to give them up.
04/18/2008 10:55AM
Similar situation
My husband hates my friends. It's to the point where he will come with me to hang out with them, but he refuses to fake enthusiasm about it. He's pretty unpleasant around them, I try to just do girls night. I don't like it when he makes a dinner partyawkward.
04/18/2008 10:57AM
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What do you do when you don't like your significant other's friends? Do you fake it? I can't fake it! I'm just really quiet around my wife's friends that I don't like.
04/18/2008 11:02AM
husband doesn't trust my friend
I met a woman from buying something from her on ebay. Since then, we have talked on the phone just about everyday. She lives in Staten Island, and whenever I mention wanting to meet her, my husband says I can't. I am 41 years old with 2 children, I think I have a good head on my shoulders, and am a good judge of people. I did meet my husband on the internet. I understand his fear, he does not trust anyone. He comes up with these stories of women being sold into slavery in another country. ?!! But I think he needs to trust me and my judgement. I would meet her halfway. We do share an interest in selling our crafts, and I would like to do a craft show with her. But I can't get my husband on board. I feel like a teenager having to get my parents approval.
04/18/2008 11:03AM
Family comes first
It's the point that these "responsible parents" are getting high and then driving the kids, who are innocent, around. I think they all need to grow up and realize they are adults.
In reference to the friendship maybe the husband should state I don't feel confortable with you spoking pot around me and my family and if they don't respect that than apparently they are good friends.
04/18/2008 11:03AM
Only in certain situations
I have only given up one friend since I've been with my husband, and that's because it was a person I was in a relationship with before. I understand why he wouldn't want me to maintain that friendship, and I respect that. Otherwise, he would never ask me to give up a friend - not to mention if he did I would just get mad at him and hang out with them anyway. I'm married, but I protect my independence - something my mom always taught me! :)
04/18/2008 11:06AM
AS WITH ALL THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH SOMEONE...
"working it out" requires cooperation and the ability (and desire!) to find the happy middle ground! doesn't matter if the "issue" is friends, money or whatever! "my way or the highway" isn't effective in the big pic!
04/18/2008 11:12AM
How is this a surprise
How were you able to get through the dating portion of your marriage and even everything that is involved in planning the wedding and the activities with out him meeting your childhood friends? He should have made a big deal about it then. I wouldn't worry about him not wanting to hang out, you need some "me" time and it sounds like this is your perfect chance to have some time to do the things that you enjoy with out him a couple times a month. You shouldn'e have to sacrifice your freinds when so many other things are sacrificed when you get married!
04/18/2008 11:24AM
Your husband cares about you
I think you should listen to your husband. He is telling you this because he cares about you. I personally agree w/your husband. I don't think anyone should get high/drink around thier kids and then drive. It sounds like your friends are trying to be kids again and relive the days when you used to be in school.
It's time to grow up, especially if you have kids and a family.
They are nice memories, but there are reponsiblities now.
I wouldn't hang out w/them either.
I listen when my husband tells me stuff like this. Because I know he has my best interest at heart. He just may be right.
04/18/2008 11:43AM
husband and wife fight
Weslea, I have been listening to the show for a while now and have listened to others comments. First of all When they got married they made a commitment to each other and it says for better or worse. Her husband has the right not to join in on the get together, but he doesnt have the right to tell her who to hang out with. He is basically implying that she would do as her friends do and that he doesn't trust her to use good judgement. If the "Guys" went off and got high, he should be thankful that they didn't do it on his property. At least they were respectful enough to go away from people. As far as driving the wife and kids home afterwards, would he say the same for HIS friends if they had been drinking at a get together? How many of his friends has he offered to drive home? Sure the "guys" were wrong, but that is really none of "their" business since the guys went for a walk and did it....The husband should trust his wifes judgement, and let her have her friends. She is not her friends keeper, and what they do is really not their business unless it was done on their property. Her husband sounds very Jaded, saying that her friends are beneath him.....There are doctors and lawyers and political figures who "Get High", are they beneath him as well? Sorry Weslea, but people like this womans husband make me sick to my stomach , hopefully she can get past this poor excuse for an argument with him
04/18/2008 11:44AM
friends
I don't like my husband's friends. This is a twist on your subject of today, but my 50 year old husband has decided his new best friends are the 20 something girl bartenders that he can drink & party with because honestly I don't think he wants to face getting older & I don't want to hang out in bars all the time & get drunk. I'm past that party scene. My husband doesn't not understand my fustration since he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.
04/18/2008 12:11PM
Proper Adult behavior
It really matters very little whether she keeps her friends .....at least her female friends......he has every right to distance himself from this situation.....regardless of who (political figures or celebrities) gets "high" it is still illegal and that makes for criminal behavior. Aren't these people adult enough to deal with life without having to escape from it by taking drugs.....if they have problems .....those problems will still be there when they "come down" from thier high.Adolescent behavior has no place in their so-called adult world....grow up and face life as it is. Have a "girls night out" with her lady friends and bag the idiot husbands who don't seem to be responsible enough to grow up and be adults. And as far as doctors and lawyers who "get high".....how would that moron like for their surgeon to "smoke up" just before their operation...??? Talk about sick to their stomach.......must be a gene pool issue.....!
04/18/2008 12:27PM
RE: How is this a surprise
You should compromise in a marriage...but sacrifice? I don't know. If you sacrifice too much you're going to turn into someone else. Then your husband will have other problems! He'll realize you aren't the woman he married. Stick to your guns. Listento his concerns and change the bad behavior... but don't lose your friends!
04/18/2008 12:33PM
To: The woman who called in and said that friends are more important that husbands...
She said "Husbands come and go, but your friends will always be there." That is what is wrong with this country! When you get married your mate becomes the #1 person in your life! If they have a problem, so do you. If you feel like they come second no wonder you've been married multiple times and it failed! I think the lady who emailed you needs to sit back and discuss this with her husband. Maybe she'll see that he isn't trying to control her. Maybe he is just concerned for her safety and the safety of their family.
Since I grew up in Albuquerque I always check the news to see what's going on in my hometown. Yesterday I was appalled when I read this story about a woman who collected thousands of dollars of child support from her ex-husband. Nothing out of the ordinary, right???? Well, it turns out the "child" never existed! She's a con! This woman even lured some kid into the court room to pose as her child! Of course her attorney tried to claim that she's delusional and unfit to stand trial. Luckily she's been found competent. The trial date hasn't been set yet.
I can't believe the lengths some people will go to for a lie. What's the biggest lie you've been told?
Thank you! It was a nice surprise when you handed Mike and I a couple of coupons. You saved me $25 dollars on my mini-shopping spree yesterday! What's more, you brightened my day! It's refreshing when people go out of their way to do something nice for you. Sadly, it doesn't happen as often as it should.
You made me think, we should all make it our goal to do something nice for a stranger from time to time. It's not that difficult. You could help an elderly person with their groceries. Or, slow down (instead of hitting the gas) so people can actually merge into traffic. The smallest gesture of kindness can really make a difference!
What's the nicest thing a stranger has ever done for you?
Do you like your significant other's friends? Or, do you think they are complete morons? Take a look at the email I got yesterday...
Weslea, My husband and I just got into the biggest fight ever! I'm upset because he thinks that my friends are morons. We've all known each other since grade school. We try to get together about twice a month and my husband has made it clear that he won't be taking part in the upcoming get together. He told me that they were beneath me, that they all acted like idiots. He's just mad because last time we all got together two of the husbands went on a "walk" and came back high. He didn't like the fact that they could do something like that and then drive their wives and kids home. I don't like to fight with my husband, but I don't want to give up my friends. What should I do?
What do you think? Have you ever had to give up friends? Have you ever fought with your partner because they don't like your friends?
One of the largest custody cases in US history! Today 416 children will go before a judge in Eldorado Texas in one of the largest custody cases in our nation's history. The children were removed almost two weeks ago, after a 16-year-old girl called an abuse hot line claiming her husband, a 50-year-old member of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, beat and raped her. The girl has yet to be identified by investigators. Texas officials believe the children were being physically and sexually abused or were in imminent danger of such abuse. Click here for the entire article.
This story has been all over the news this week. Some think that the children should not have been separated from their mothers. Others think that Texas state officials are just doing their jobs. What are your thoughts on this?
Weslea,
My girlfriend doesn't understand why I won't eat at chain restaurants. It's to the point where we fight every time we are trying to decide where we want to eat. I don't mean to be a food snob, but I'm a chef. I know good food. I love to make good food and I LOVE to eat good food. Why on earth would I want to lower my standard to eat at a chain restaurant or worse yet a fast food joint. That's just gross. I feel bad that I'm always fighting with my girl over something that is so stupid, but I refuse to eat bad food. Are there others like me? My girlfriend swears I'm the most stubborn person in the world. I just want to know if there are other people who refuse to compromise on the things they are passionate about?
Thanks,
Dennis (the food snob) from Greece
Well? Is there anything that you are a snob about? Do you refuse to drink generic beer? Maybe you will only drink certain types of coffee? Or, maybe you only buy designer clothing. Tell me what you are snobby about.
I was baby sitting a little boy a few years ago. I took him to the park, he was playing on the swings and running around in the grass. He was just having a grand old time. All of the sudden I notice he's chewing on something. I run over to him and ask, "What are you eating?" He very excitedly tells me, "I found a raisin!!!" It was too late, he had already swallowed. I felt like the worlds worst babysitter. To this day I hope and pray that the little brown thing he found in the grass actually was a raisin.
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